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| © Hero Images - Getty Images Many people are successful because they are great at being highly responsive. But it begs the question, where do you draw the line? |
Q: I’m struggling between work and home balance. My partner complains that I’m doing work or checking Slack on my phone all the time, but work never stops for me, and it feels like I’m always trying to catch up. Do you have any advice?
A:
It’s so hard in today’s world of constant contact to turn off your
phone and disconnect. The demands of our clients, co-workers, and
careers make us always feel there is an urgency to respond and be on top
of our business at every moment. And with good reason. Many people are
successful because they are great at being highly responsive. It can be a
big differentiator between you and your co-workers or competitors.
People who are hungry and get the work done quickly and efficiently are
in top demand. But it begs the question, where do you draw the line?
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Here’s how to understand where your line is and how you can adjust it.
1. Take stock of why you are working so hard.
Everyone
needs to have some boundaries between work and play but they have to be
thought through and all of the variables need to be considered. Here
are some examples of when work will rightfully demand more of your time.
- You’re in the proving ground. If you are at the beginning of your career or just got a promotion, you need to be more focused on success than balance. Your goal is to prove you have what it takes, not to take breaks and disconnect. Once you have demonstrated your worth, you can check out a little. Until then, stay in the game.
- It’s the busy season. In the busy season of your business, you will likely need all hands on deck at most times. This season will not last, but it’s the time to show up all in and show you’ve got what it takes to get it done. This is not a time for balance; balance will come when things slow down. And if you are not hyper focused during this time, you may fail to take advantage of all the opportunities the experience will bring.
- It’s for a VIP. Who is asking you to work matters. If it’s a boss, a leader in your organization or a client, then you want to say “how high” when they say “jump.” These are the people you need to be impressing and responding to as they will control your future.
If you are in one of these situations–which is a good thing if you
are looking to develop in your career–let your partner know. While it
won’t lessen the amount of time you’ll have to devote to work, at least
your partner can understand why and what to expect as you navigate
through it.
It is critical for you to be
able to shut down your phone and focus on the people and experience in
front of you. I have met many people who are so addicted to their phones
that they cannot put them away. This is not because they need to check
their phones every minute. Rather, it is a habit they cannot break and
it can negatively impact their ability stay focused in conversations.
You
have to be able to put your phone away for periods of time every day so
that you can learn to recondition your brain to not be in constant
distraction. If this is a struggle for you, you have to figure out why.
Are you really that busy or is it that you have an addiction to the
constant communication? Or are you just avoiding the connection and
intimacy with the person you are with? These are all important questions
to ponder.
By making time for breaks at the right times and
staying in the moment, you’ll gain more enjoyment from your time away
from work. This in turn will help you be more focused and energetic when
you’re back at it.
2. Determine the right time for breaks.
No matter what’s happening in your career or the season or who is
asking, you are human and need to have some breaks. There are good times
in the day and week to make it happen.
Most people break at
dinner time, 6:30-8:30pm, and shut down around 10pm. The weekends are
also good times to check out. Many successful people take all of
Saturday off (depending on the business) to recharge and then start to
check back in on Sunday. Aligning your schedule to those of your
colleagues and clients can help you carve out time for yourself when you
know being out-of-pocket is fairly typical.
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If you find that
there is no flow to your colleagues’ work schedules–perhaps you work on a
distributed team–then be clear with them about any regular time blocks
you require. Also, don’t be afraid to let them know when you are
temporarily unavailable (e.g. you’re driving somewhere, going for a run,
having dinner out with your partner). They’ll appreciate the heads up
and know you received their message. The more proactive you are, the
better.
3. Schedule time to disconnect.
Giving your brain a rest is the most important thing you can do for your productivity as well as your personal relationships. While your breaks should be strategic, they also have to happen, so you don’t burnout, make mistakes, and become unhappy. |
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