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By Laura Lambert, Mom.me
There’s
something inherently icky about the notion of trying to impress
someone—especially a boss or higher-up. Are you trying to be someone
you’re not? Are you sucking up? Is this all a sham?
The
thing is, especially in the workplace, there’s nothing more effective
at impressing others than being the best YOU you can be. That’s why they
hired you, right? To be truly impressive, in a non-awkward way, try the
following tips.
1. Find one thing to learn
For
Jason Stoikoff, an architect and project manager from Pasadena,
California, it’s about figuring out the one lesson you really want to
learn from your boss. “Find something—anything—that you can learn, big
or small, from your boss,” he says. “Whether you love or hate them, try
to find one thing that you think can actually benefit you. Then tell
them what it is. This will be flattering to them and helpful to you.
It's a compliment that combines your own self-interest with a certain
level of appreciation and respect for them. It is genuine and not
ingratiating. Win-win for both parties!”
2. Be early
In
some workplaces, it’s cool to stroll in at half past 10, and in others,
it’s butts-in-seats at 8 a.m. sharp—which is to say, adjust
expectations for your particular work culture. But it’s almost always a
good mark to be there before your boss. On the practical side, it lets
you dig into email and get in front of an emergency before there’s
anyone looking over your shoulder. And, on the side of optics, it just
works. Set that alarm.
3. Be present
We’ve
all gotten sucked into email (or Instagram!) in the middle of a
meeting, only to be called out as inattentive. What? Oh, yes, I think
what Jane was just saying is right on point. In a word (or two): Just
don’t. When you’re at work, be at work.
4. Be vulnerable
“Not
that I do this intentionally,” says Shannon Peavey, the director of
product for a Silicon Valley startup, “but I find that the more you
confide in them, the more they confide in you.” It’s equally effective
with higher-ups and subordinates. “Goes both ways!”
5. Show that you’re listening
Most
people—and many bosses, especially—just want to feel supported and
heard. One way to do that is to use phrases they’ve said back to them,
or to quote them, using their words. Don’t be smarmy, obviously.
6. Tell the truth
Good
or bad, being honest about what’s really going on at work will, in most
cases, make you trustworthy. Nobody likes to be the bearer of bad news,
but when the bad news is valuable information that can help the
business, it takes a pretty poor manager to want to shoot the messenger.
7. Be open to feedback
Paula
Gonzalez, a school counselor in California's Bay Area, believes that
accepting and acting on feedback is the key. “Being open to
feedback—even when it’s hard to hear—has been super important for me to
continue to collaborate and develop a healthy working relationship,” she
says.
8. Use your EQ
Some
of the best advice is to simply follow the golden rule: Be kind above
all else, and treat your coworkers as real people. “In all sincerity,”
says Lesley Ling, who works in human resources, “empathy and compassion
are phenomenal in both directions, too.”
9. Find a way to connect
This
isn’t about re-inventing yourself to better fit your boss’s worldview.
It’s about finding common ground, even outside of the workplace. “The
strategic part of it, I guess, is to find the people who will have the
biggest influence on you and find a way to connect with them. And
hopefully that doesn't mean becoming a gym rat at Equinox,” says Ryan
Modjeski, a director of digital product from Echo Park, California.
10. Just do it
Sometimes
the answer is right there in front of you. “As a boss and a
subordinate,” says Ling, “the best way to impress and show appreciation
is to use your brain and do your job.”
