Job interviews are a lot like blind
dates. Your job is to impress someone you’ve never met before, who’s
deciding whether they want to hang out with you for the next few months
or so, maybe even a year. They might end up making babies with you. The
primary difference between blind dates is that in interviews, one
woefully desperate person is meeting another, who holds all the power,
on their home turf. Actually that still sounds a lot like some of the
dates I’ve been on.
What you’re really selling is your personality.
They’ve got all the credentials they needed; your date heard about you
through a friend, your interviewer already saw your CV, that’s why they
decided to see you. They know about you. So don’t talk about yourself,
talk about them. Ask questions or show them you also did your research
by casually mentioning similar interests.
As date or interviewee, your job is to make them want you. Boost your
perceived worth by demonstrating your greater qualities, rather than
just stating that you have them.
Tell stories. Nobody wants to listen to someone
boast. Instead, talk about that time faced some seemingly insurmountable
task, and succeeded. Or even better, tell a funny story about failing,
and what you learned from that. Your ability to learn is attractive, to
friends, potential bosses and lovers: Of the people who upset us, it’s
those who learn from their mistakes that remain our friends.
So, go to interviews, and sell your personality. As it is.
If your personality is not getting you a job, change your personality.
Turn up on time. In a suit. Smile more. Reflect on experiences, create
hypotheses, and test them, changing your behaviour until they do work.
Don’t be precious about it, your personality is just a collection of
things you habitually do.
Another similarity between dates and job interviews:
Never listen to someone who claims to be good at them.
The only way to be good at things is by doing them many, many times.
Like dating, if someone is doing lots of job interviews, they’re
terrible at interviews, or they’re interviewing for the wrong jobs.
By Harry Key.
